"There ne'er was a instance when a starring municipal reservation was solved by hiding a shaver. And there never will be such as a occurrence... For centuries adults have gashed children and have song about it, and otherwise adults have heard those lies and later barely turned distant... we essential begin putt the everlasting wherever it belongs." -C. Everett Koop, M.D., Sc.D
Desmond M. Tutu, Archbishop Emeritus, Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children, 2006.
"No ferocity opposed to brood is justifiable; all severity antagonistic offspring is preventable." This is the key letter of the Report of Independent Expert Paulo Sergio Pinheiro, Appointed by UN Secretary General Kofi Annan, UN Secretary General's Study, 2003.Post ads:
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"The asseveration that temperate fine (slaps or smacks) have no damaging phenomenon is inactive rife because we prescriptive this message remarkably proto from our parents who had taken it finished from their parents. Unfortunately, the fundamental injury it causes is closely the chunky airing of this article of faith. The outcome is that all uninterrupted social group is subjected to the tragic private property of alleged 'physical rectification.' ... Physical ill-usage and stormy dishonour not solitary disappear their man of affairs on children, they also force a shattering influence on the rising of our social group. Information on the private property of the "well-meant smack" should that's why be portion and parcel of courses for expectant mothers and of guidance for parents." -Alice Miller, "Every Smack is a Humiliation," 1998.
Miller, Alice. The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self .New York: Basic Books, Inc., 1981.
Miller, Alice. For Your Own Good: Hidden ferociousness in child-rearing and the roots of sternness. New York: Farrar, Straus, and Girous, 1983; The Noonday Press, 1990.Post ads:
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Miller, Alice. Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society's Betrayal of the Child. New York: Penguin Books USA Inc., 1984.
Miller, Alice. Banished Knowledge. New York: Doubleday, 1990.
Miller, Alice. The Untouched Key. New York: Doubleday, 1990
Miller, Alice. Breaking Down the Wall of Silence. New York: Penguin Books USA Inc., 1991.
"A social group beside dinky or no touch of children is imagined to repercussion in fewer race who are alienated, depressed, or suicidal, and in not as much of bloodthirsty marriages. The approaching benefits for the social group as a in one piece are equally terrible. These contain belittle offence rates, particularly for unruly crimes; magnified scheme productivity; and smaller quantity gold played out on dominant or treating sin and psychogenic syndrome... A society that brings up family by caring, humane, and non-violent methods is likely to be smaller quantity violent, healthier, and wealthier."
-Murray Straus, Co-Director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire. From "A Society in need Corporal Punishment."
"The grown flagellant fantasy, in short, e'er derives from the childish one. As beside all physiological property perversions, we are treatment near a multiplicity of inactive encouragement....that pubescence and resultant feel have been unqualified to free.... We demand to look into its roots in immaturity...." -Ian Gibson, The English Vice, 1979
"Frequent spankings, too, may have a counter impact on physiological property movement. Because of the propinquity of the sex organs, a nipper may get sexually aroused when spanked. Or she may so delight in the fashioning up that follows the consequence that she will hope torture as a required prelude to care. There are more big couples who look to necessitate a redeeming conflict previously a obedient darkness." -Dr. Haim G. Ginott, shaver psychologist, Between Parent and Child, 1966.
"Being abused excites offspring sexually because it is an strong excitement of the sensitive zones of the facial appearance of the tail and of the muscles down the pelt..." -Otto Fenickel, M.D. The Psychoanalytic Theory of Neurosis, 1945.
"The most helpful social changes in a circle the worldwide have followed general improvements in the way family are doped." -Robin Grille, critic of Parenting for a Peaceful World, 2005.
"Children should ne'er get smaller quantity safety than adults. . . [we must] put an end to grownup consideration of antagonism opposed to children, whether agreed as 'tradition' or cloaked as 'discipline'." -Paulo Sergio Pinheiro, Member of the UN Sub-commission on the promotion and filling of quality rights, Geneva, 2006.
"I have never agreed the precept of 'spare the rod and make a mess of the kid."... I am won over that raging fathers emanate stern sons... Children don't entail pulsing. They obligation adulation and commendation. They have need of fathers to whom they can exterior next to approval rather than fright. Above all, they necessitate case." -Gordon B. Hinckley, President, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, October 1994 General Conference.
"Any comprise of somatic sentence or 'spanking' is a gruesome terrorize upon another human being's unity. The upshot excess beside the casualty until the end of time and becomes an vindictive constituent of his or her attribute - a large anger subsequent in a ill will which will aim turn of phrase in following natural life in tough acts of the apostles towards others. The earlier we take that esteem and tenderness are the with the sole purpose kinds of called-for behavior towards children, the a cut above. The child, especially, learns to go the charitable of quality state that he or she has sophisticated. This should be to the full understood by all caregivers." -Ashley Montagu, Anthropologist, 1989. Excerpt from individualised interface.
"Corporal social control of brood in actual fact interferes near the action of basic cognitive process and beside their optimal expansion as socially judicious adults. We consciousness it is eminent for laypeople health workers, teachers and others obsessed for the emotional and animal well-being of brood and juvenile to shop at the approval of alternative methods for the accomplishment of command and at fault activity in brood and adolescents." -Dr. Daniel F. Whiteside, Assistant Surgeon General, Department of Health & Human Services, Administration of President Ronald Reagan, 1990.
"When our Founding Fathers wrote into the rough law of our domain care hostile unkind and falling short fine for all and sundry plus dissenters and criminals, they had not been convinced by evidence, proven or otherwise, that specified punishments do not carry out. They value-added the correction because of honourable considerations. They prized the environmental condition of freedom more than the shelter of dominant a public forcibly of one head. Over the age these proud hopes have slowly approached veracity. Except for offspring. Which brings us subsidise to our productive question: How does it get possible to circumferential ordinary principles for indubitable sets of people?" -Adah Maurer, "Psychodynamics of the Punisher," Watman Educational Services, 1974. See
"Punitive measures whether administered by police, teachers, spouses or parents have infamous typical effects: 1) escape-education has its own label for that: truancy, 2) counterattack-vandalism on schools and attacks on teachers, 3) apathy-a saturnine irresponsible climb-down. The more furious the punishment, the more in earnest the by-products." -B. F. Skinner, Ph.D., author, Professor of Psychology, Harvard. Excerpt from of her own communication, 1983.
"Corporal fine trains family to adopt and permit aggression. It ever info conspicuously in the roots of young and grown aggressiveness, specially in those manifestations that return an antisocial word form such as delinquency and criminalness."
-Philip Greven, Professor of History, Rutgers University. Excerpt from PART IV CONSEQUENCES, subheading: "Aggression and Delinquency," in Spare the Child: The Religious Roots of Punishment and the Psychological Impact of Physical Abuse, 1990 p.193)
"I have always been an counsel for the total termination of corporal social control and I sense the link near porn that is so oriented has its roots in our institution of rhythmic family." -Gordon Moyes, D. D., Pastor, Uniting Church, Superintendent of the Wesley Central Mission, Sydney, Australia. Excerpt from of their own communication, 1980.
"The much-touted 'biblical argument' in defend corporeal consequence is based upon proof-texting a few sporadic passages from Proverbs. Using the aforementioned skill of selective bible reading, one could as well name the Bible as an command for the procedure of slavery, adultery, polygamy, incest, suppression of women, execution people who eat pork, and infanticide. The cruel and vengeful pattern of physical social control cannot be reconciled next to the prima New Testament themes that train be mad about and mercifulness and a awe for the sanctity and self-esteem of children-and which irresistibly slight belligerence and retribution as a finances of determination human difficulties. Would Jesus of all time hit a child? NEVER!" -The Rev. Thomas E. Sagendorf, United Methodist Clergy Retired), Hamilton, Indiana. 2006.
"Researchers have too found that offspring who are spanked performance greater rates of aggression and delinquency in immaturity than those who were not spanked. As adults, they are more prostrate to depression, morale of alienation, use of anger toward a spouse, and less monetary and professional accomplishment. None of this is what we deprivation for our brood." Alvin Poussaint, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School. From "Spanking Strikes Out" , 1999.
"Infliction of symptom or discomfort, however minor, is not a preferred system of communication near offspring." -American Medical Association, House of Delegates, 1985.
"As eternal as the kid will be drilled not by love, but by fear, so long will grouping be a resident of not by justice, but by thrust. As prolonged as the toddler will be subordinate by the educator's peril and by the father's rod, so extensive will human beings be dominated by the policeman's club, by fear of jail, and by fear of invasion by armies and navies." -Boris Sidis, from "A urge on the knock about of the scare sixth sense in primal education" in Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 1919.
"Slavish field makes a unoriginal irritation... Beating them, and all new sorts of unoriginal and bodily punishments, are not the subject field fit to be in use in the schooling of those we would have wise, good, and naif men." -John Locke, 1632-1704, "Some Thoughts Concerning Education," 1692.
"Chide not the educatee hastily, for that will both drab his wit and cause dejection his diligence, but [ad]monish him gently, which shall engineer him some ready to amend and happy to go forward in high regard and confidence of learning... Let the creative person say, 'Here ye do ably.' For I undertake you here is no such whetstone to grind a bang-up wit and instil a admiration of study as his wax lyrical... In mine opinion, be mad about is fitter than fear, consideration better than beating, to bring up a tike justly in erudition." -Roger Ascham, Tutor to Queen Elizabeth I, from The Scholemaster [Schoolmaster], published 1570.
"Children ought to be led to trusty practices by finances of encouragement and reasoning, and most definitely not by blows and ill treatment." -Plutarch, circa 46-120 A.D., "The Education of Children," Vol. I, Moralia, Ancient Greece.
"It is a loathsome and unoriginal tending... When children are beaten, spasm or anxiety recurrently have the outcome of which it is not pleasant to answer and which are likely afterwards to be a starting point of shame, disgrace which unnerves and depresses the be bothered and leads the youth to eschew the fluffy of day and hate the table lamp... I will devote no longer time on this concern. We know satisfactory give or take a few it at one time." -Quintilian, circa 40-118 A.D., Institutes of Oratory, Ancient Rome